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ENFP - INTJ Relationship: Is it Special?
Well, yes and no. Yes, it is special, but not uniquely so. Also there may be another relationship that is even better.

When comparing ENFP and INTJ, notice that all letters change except the second one. Two points about changing just one letter:

1. Changing all letters but this one creates a harmonious relationship, not only for ENFP or INTJ, but for any type.
2. This is just one of three ways you can change letters. Looking at the other ways is instructive also.

So let's look at what happens when you keep just one letter the same.

Keep only the first letter:

INTJ Ni* Te Fi Se

ISFP Fi Se Ni Te

All functions the same. All functions the same provides considerable commonality, but each is good at something the other is bad at (4th function), so they can tend to see the other as pathetic at times. Ideally they help one another with the 4th function, provided they can get over how bad the other is at it.

Keep only the second letter:

INTJ Ni Te Fi Se

ENFP Ne Fi Te Si

Sharing judging functions. Sharing all judging functions, but no perceiving ones is delightful because it means both can bring in different perceptions/data, from which they reach similar conclusions. That the lead perceiving function is Intuitive helps even more.

Keep only the third letter:

INTJ Ni Te Fi Se

ESTP Se Ti Fe Ni

Sharing perceiving functions. Sharing all perceiving functions, but not the judging ones leads to seeing the other as missing the boat/not understanding what is important because they have the same data, but reach opposite conclusions.

Keep only the fourth letter:

INTJ Ni Te Fi Se

ESFJ Fe Si Ne Ti

Sharing no functions. No functions in common is a relationship of conflict. Both parties perceive things differently and judge them differently as well, making understanding difficult. In addition, there is more difference in the types of the leading functions. One's leading perceptive function is Intuitive, the other's Sensing. One's leading judging function is Thinking, the other's Feeling.

Let's try it with another type, say INFP.

INFP Fi Ne Si Te

1 ISTJ Si Te Fi Ne Good-Bad

2 ENTJ Te Ni Se Fi Delight

3 ESFJ Fe Si Ne Ti Miss the Boat

4 ESTP Se Ti Fe Ni Conflict

What about INTJ and INFP together?

INFP Fi Ne Si Te

INTJ Ni Te Fi Se

Sharing judging functions. Sharing all judging functions, but no perceiving ones is delightful because it means both can bring in different perceptions/data, from which they reach similar conclusions. That the lead perceiving function is Intuitive helps even more.

So, potentially, for compatibility, one should look at keeping the first two letters the same and changing the latter two.

*In case you are wondering what the function codes mean:

Fe	Extraverted Feeling	Connection to others
Fi	Introverted Feeling	Authenticity and individuality
Ne	Extraverted Intuition	Brainstorming; gathering new ideas and solutions
Ni	Introverted Intuition	Introspecting to determine a vision of the future
Se	Extraverted Sensing	Perceiving in a realistic and concrete way
Si	Introverted Sensing	Comparing phenomena with past experiences; "what we have enjoyed in the past is good to repeat"
Te	Extraverted Thinking	Organization and getting things done
Ti	Introverted Thinking	Analysis of logical principles

See also

• Personality Types of Famous People

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